The most widely used book on persuasion and influence in the business community is—by far—Robert Cialdini’s Influence: The psychology of persuasion. Overall, the book is #276 in Amazon’s books. It’s #1 in consumer behavior, #13 in motivational books and #20 in success books. I recommend it highly for every person’s bookshelf.
But the author is utterly blind to what makes his book a phenomenal success, never mentioning the key factor, yet, ironically, maximizing it throughout the book. It’s clear that the driver of his book’s influence is hidden in plain sight. It’s a glorious and very lucky form of blindness.
Cialdini’s book is a set of six principles, “weapons of influence.” But the book is loaded with. . . STORIES. The most basic weapon of influence is not one of his six principles, but story. I don’t expect psychologists to know or understand that. After all, psychology has become the scientific study of mental functions, self-reported behaviors, white rats and finger movements. Language use and function, in contrast, belong to the discipline of rhetoric—that human symbolic effort to bring about cooperation. As a result, rhetoricians often focus upon how various forms of ...
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